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Wednesday, September 8th 2010

8:07 PM

Am I really crazy?!

Why is it so many people feel the need to be with someone? Is there something special about saying "I'm taken?". There is nothing wrong with that...it just depends how you got to that place. Have you broken hearts and ruined people for your own sake? Have you played a game only you can win? People think I'm crazy to be 19 and never been in a relationship. I laugh...because I know it just means I've never hurt anyone...or myself.

Times are crazy now. A 12 year old now runs around with a boyfriend/girlfriend. It's now 'in' to have a line of people pleading for your attention-or to have a line of people to 'choose' from.

But let me ask this; what happened to the time when it was considered normal to wait...wait for that one person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with.

Things have changed...and not for the better either. Girls throw themselves at guys...guys plays girls. Each no better then the other...but each playing a game.

Some people think that you are nothing without someone in your life like that. They think that you need someone else to complete you...or make your life mean anything.

Sadly...that's furthest from the truth.

There are many examples of how a girl will be given the choice of two or more people to choose from. She claims she loves one more then the other...but if she did...would there really be a choice? The first example that comes to mind...Bella Swan. A girl who claims to be in love with Edward...yet can't get Jacob off her mind. I honestly find it insane. If she really has to think THAT hard about who she wants to be with...then she doesn't really love either of them.

It's rare these days to meet anyone older then 17 or 18...or ever 16...who has NOT been in a relationship. Now it's one thing to meet someone who sincerely thought they had found the 'one'...but things just didn't work out. But it's another to find someone who has been with so many people..they've lost count. Or they can't stop whining about one person...WHILE going after countless others.

All my life I have watched people like this...each time thinking "I don't want to be like that" and where has that taken me? I'm 19...never been in a relationship...and considered crazy by many.

But I don't care what people think. Because I know that the pain I have not experience from relationships in the past...will make my first (and hopefully last) relationship that much more special.

It truly makes me sad to see people jump from one person to another...as if it was a normal thing to do. As if someone wasn't being left hurt each time it happened.
13 Comment(s).

Posted by Sarah:

This is so wise, Alesia! It's heart-breaking for me to think of all the hurt I caused and experienced because I didn't wait. You're going to be blessed whenever you do enter a relationship because you'll be able to come to it maturely and without a bunch of baggage!
Wednesday, September 8th 2010 @ 8:46 PM

Posted by Reviewer11:


Finally! I meet someone who thinks like me. When I was in high school, people ask me why I don't have a boyfriend. It seemed like people had to have someone or something was wrong with you. Truth is, you don't have to have a boyfriend unless you want to and like him.

Thanks for sharing with us.
Friday, December 3rd 2010 @ 10:11 PM

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